One of the hobbies I took up this summer is photography, and it is amazing the things you can do. I was browsing through a magazine last night and I went through every single page looking for wrinkles on the models, and I only found one picture that showed any. One friend argued and said that make-up takes care of all of that. I don’t know about you, but even with make up on you can see my zits! While working with a well experienced photographer I learned how to take away any imperfection on my skin in a matter of 5 seconds. Take a look at this video clip and see how it is done. Don’t be fooled by the magazines, those girls look just like we do before the artists get started:

Hey you guys! I need some help. What’s the best thing to do when you are having a difficult time being a focused and devoted Christian gurl, but are worried about the stupid things, such as guys, clothes, looks, and drama. Any bible verses, stories, or advice will really help me out!

Thanks so much

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Q: I am a new member at Surge Girls, but I love the completely honest questions and answers  you give. It’s like there are other girls out there who are my sisters. So many websites are so FAKE when it comes to talking about real Christian girls issues! (And the clothes are HOT!)

I came to the Lord only last year when this AWESOME youth leader led me to him. Now I try to give all things over to my Creator and Redeemer. Since that time, I’ve been dating this guy from that retreat named Josh. Seriously, he is the most awesome, cutest guy ever! And he’s a true Christian who puts God first in all things. We both love shopping and spend a lot of time at the mall. He’s got awesome taste (he even knows what a maxi dress is!). We are very intimate, especially in our prayer life. But now he is starting to say he wants me to have oral sex with him. He says it’s not really sex and just a natural sign of our love, but I’m worried it’s going too far,  (even tho he is hot!) Does the Bible say anything about oral sex? If it just shows him I love him and I don’t “get off” on it, isn’t it just the same as kissing?

Confused

A: It is not the same as kissing.  I would consider oral sex to be as intimate as real sex between a man a woman.  Don’t be fooled by his closeness with God.  If he was that close to God, he wouldn’t be trying to talk you into anything. Whether you want to believe it or not that is pure selfishness on his part.  He’s not thinking about your feelings. He’s thinking only about his.  Anytime you have to rethink something like that to justify it in your mind, that should be a red flag to you.  The little voice that you are hearing that’s telling you to think this thru twice is one that you should listen to.  If you’re going to get that intimate with someone,  you better be absolutely positive beyond any doubts that you are going to be with that person for life.  You made the comment that “if it shows him that I love him and I don’t get off on it…….”  Oral sex is still a form of sex and is meant to be shared between two people that TRULY love each other.  One of the things that can manifest in a relationship is  resentment.  That happens in a relationship when you “don’t get off on it and you’re doing it for him”.  I think that introducing any type of sex into a relationship makes things very complicated.  It confuses sexual love with real love - which is where you’re at right now.  Right now you still have your innocence.  Why give that up for 1 guy.  Because once you give that up, it gets easier and easier to give it up and someday when you find yourself in a room full of guys, do you want to be thinking about every one of them that you had sex/oral sex with?  Or do you want to be looking at your husband and telling yourself how lucky you are and how much you love him and how glad you are that you waited to be intimate with the one that you are spending the rest of your life with.